Suicide is Never the Answer

SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER

A sobering statistic in Law Enforcement is the fact that an officer is more likely to be a victim of suicide than a homicide. The suicide rate per 100,000 people is 11.1% for the population and 18% for Law Enforcement. Suicide is devastating to families, friends and co-workers.

It is something you have a hard time understanding when you hear about it happening. Especially, when it happens to one of your own. What do you think when you hear a story about one of your own who risks his/her life everyday for this country taking their life? It saddens me and it maddens me! As an Agent and as a mental health professional it makes me want to do more. I hope this information is useful. If only one suicide is prevented that is a victory.

I will start with some of the basic information.
Here are some of the warning signs:
1. Threatens to harm self.
2. Prior suicide attempt(s).
3. Disturbance in sleep/appetite/weight.
4. Thinking is constricted – all or nothing, black or white.
5. Increased risk-taking behavior.
6. Has plan and means for suicide.
7. Emotionless/numb.
8. Angry/agitated.
9. Sad/depressed.
10. Hopeless, not future-oriented; giving away valued possessions.
11. Problems at work/home.
12. Recent loss (status, loved one).
13. Under investigation.
14. Socially isolated/withdrawn.
15. Increased consumption of alcohol/drugs.

The problem is as Agents you do some of these things as habit in order to do your jobs. These things serve you well in our daily work but hinder your ability to get help when you truly need it. For instance, if you have problems at home, you try not to take it with you to work. You try to separate the two so you can do your job. You try to set home problem aside to get the job done, to make sure you have your fellow agent’s back when he/she needs you. The problem occurs when you get overloaded. You can only do this for so long before it overwhelms you. This can lead to what psychiatrist Karl Menninger referred to as “suicide by inches.”

“This refers to more gradual behaviors of self-destruction, like excessive spending in an effort to buy happiness, excessive drinking or compulsive adultery as a means to escape, addictively overworking at the cost of relationships with spouse and kids.” The Force Science News #101: Practical pointers for preventing “suicide by inches” Bill Lewinski.

As Agents you try to blow off steam in ways that don’t help sometimes, they just mask the problems. Going out and drinking (choir practice) is one of the ways you do this. It is something that is done in celebration some times. It becomes a problem when it is an escape. A way to forget about the problems at home and/or at work. You compound all of these issues and you have a dangerous mix. I am not trying to be Chicken Little here. I just want all of you to remember that suicide is NEVER the answer. It is a poor solution to temporary problems.

Some good suggestions I have found in this article and my practice are:
1. Talk to a Buddy. Talk to someone you can honestly open up to without worry of how they are going to judge you. Sometimes it’s nice to just have a sounding board.

2. Develop a Purpose outside of work. There is more to life than the “JOB.” Remember it is just that a job. When you leave or go on vacation the job still gets done. Find something you enjoy doing outside of work that is in line with whom you really are or who you want to be. It could be anything from going back to school to fishing to building model ships in glass bottles. You can also volunteer to help those less fortunate. That always puts things in perspective. Who cares what it is, just do something constructive, positive, fun and purposeful to you.

3. Pay attention to your mental health. Pay attention for the symptoms listed above and below. If you see them happening in your life or a friends or a co-workers intervene.
a. Are you banging in a lot?
b. Are you coming to work hung over a lot?
c. Are you always irritable?
d. Are you drinking frequently and excessively?
e. Do you feel as though no one will understand?
f. Are you worried about getting fired?
g. Are you having problems at home (divorce, break up, death in the family, bankruptcy etc.)?

These are a few things that may contribute to problems in your physical and mental health. If they are then gets some help at setting up a plan to deal with each of these issues. You are not the first person to have the problems and you will not be the last. You ability to deal with them might help you help someone else.

4. Consider getting a check up.
a. Go to you general practitioner if you don’t know what to do or don’t want to go to a “shrink.”
b. A yearly mental health check up was suggested in the article from The Force Science News and I think it is an excellent idea.

I know as Law Enforcement Officers you tend to not trust outsiders, especially mental health professionals. There are some good ‘shrinks” out there. Find one that fits with you. Mental health professionals understand that sometimes it is not personal; it is just that you don’t click. It is ok to shop around for a therapist. Yes, I said the word it is not a four letter one. Although it would be more acceptable to agents if it was.

Now I take my mental health professional hat off and this is straight from my heart as an Agent. We have a saying that we would rather be tried by twelve than carried by six. Give things a chance to work themselves out. You cut off all options with such a final actions. With time the situation will lose some of its sting.

Think of it this way. Every Law Enforcement Officer hates a cop killer. Wouldn’t committing suicide be doing the same thing!

Overall remember watching each others back does not stop when you take off the uniform. During this holiday season and each day after let’s be there for each other. Don’t put on blinders because you don’t want to offend someone.

Again, SUICIDE is NEVER the answer!

For more information: www.thepainbehindthebadge.
www.psf.org (The National Police Suicide Foundation)
www.forcesciencenews.com
Employee Assistance Program (EAP) 1-800-467-3277

No matter the situation. You must remember that your life is a gift. How you choose to express that gift is up to you. Respect this gift and get help if you need it, but most of all remember things are never as bad as they seem and you are much stronger than you think!